Sheryl Sandberg has one tip for making each workday joyous

Sheryl Sandberg has one tip for making each workday joyousSheryl Sandberg has one tip for making each workday joyousOn Friday morning, Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg spoke to the graduating class of Virginia Tech, sharing her message of resilience.In the commencement speech, Sandberg spoke candidly about the death of her husband,SurveyMonkey CEO Dave Goldberg, who died suddenly in 2015 fromcardiac arrhythmia.I know important day, its raining and Im up here talking about death. But I promise you theres a reason and even one thats not evensad, Sandberg said. The reason Sandberg was speaking about her personal tragedy was to teach the graduates a lesson about thestrength to rely on others because there are times to lean in and there are times to lean on.(To hear the full speech, fast forward to 10824 in this video)(function(d, s, id) var js, fjs = d.getElementsByTagName(s)0 if (d.getElementById(id)) return js = d.createElement(s) js.id = id js.src = https//connect.facebook.net/en_U S/sdk.jsxfbml=1version=v3.1 fjs.parentNode.insertBefore(js, fjs)(document, script, facebook-jssdk))We are born with a certain amount of resilienceBecoming a widow with two young children fundamentally changed how she saw the world, Sandberg said. She said her motherstayed with me for the very first month, literally holding me asI cried myself to sleep. I had never felt weaker.But as she wondered how she and her children could ever move past this tragedy, she also hit the books with her friend, organizationalpsychologist Adam Grant. Their research led to Sandbergs second book, Option B, on how people have recovered from hardship and loss.Sandberg noted that her journey towards resilience is not unique, citing the Virginia Tech shooting in 2007.We are not born with a certain amountof resilience it is a muscle and that means we can build it, she said. We build it together, as a community. Thats called collective resilience, its an incredibly powerful force and its one that our count ry and our world need a lot more of right now. It is in our relationships with each other that we find our will to live, our capacity to love, and our ability to bring change into thisworld.A simple practice to remember your joy every daySandberg said we can strengthen our resilience through shared experiences and through shared narratives.These actions do not have to be huge to be meaningful, she noted. They can be as small as laughing together until your sides ache or as big as holding each other while you cry.For Sandberg, her husbands deathhas made her more grateful now than I was before for my family and especially my children.Before bed, she now writes down three moments of personal joy, a practice she started lastJanuary. I used to go to bed every night thinkingabout whatI did wrong and what I was goingto do wrong the next day.Now I go to sleep thinking of what went right.